The perfect way on how to approach a women… a secret, just for you dear reader
How to Approach Women
To most men, knowing how to approach women seems to be one of those things that only a few brave or really talented men can do without looking like idiots. Do you ever feel if you just knew the “how to” of picking up women, the rest of it would be easy? If that’s the case, you are likely frustrated by not yet knowing the art of approaching a woman you’ve never met. If this is you, you’ll be glad to find these easy tips on the best way to approach women:
First, Before Approaching, Know Where to Meet Women
Obviously, the first thing you’re going to have to know is where to look for women to meet. Everybody knows some places are better than others for meeting women. Trying to pick up women at the dry cleaner’s or the grocery market, can be pretty challenging. If a woman is someplace where she’s taking care of business, interrupting her schedule is likely just to annoy her. She’s not going to have time or interest for chatting.
If you do see a woman you absolutely must meet approaching you, and you know you’ll never see her again, give it a shot. The worst thing that can happen is that you could be rejected. To increase your chances of getting a good response, go places where women will be, but won’t be in a hurry. Think: dog parks, bookstores, clubs, art exhibits…
Second, The Walk-Away Approach
If you think you already know how to meet women, you’re probably the sort who goes from “Hi! I’m Joe.” to “can I get your phone number?” in under five minutes. You may get a phone number this way, but it really looks pathetic, and demonstrates that you’re interested in a woman without giving her any indication of your personality. That first phone call is probably going to bomb in a big way. You weren’t memorable when you met her. Why would she remember you when you call? Instead, try making a comment, get her response, and walk away or go back to whatever you were doing.
Walking away accomplishes two things: first, it shows women you’re a big boy and not needy, and then it makes them wonder whether or not you’re interested in them. Once you’ve actually approached her and walked off, it’s much easier to bump into her and engage her in conversation
Third, The Observational Approach
If you think that memorizing a certain scenario is the best way to approach a woman, stop it right now! It comes across as stilted and rehearsed. Be yourself, and look for natural “leads” into conversation. Master the art of paying attention to what’s going on around you, and engage people with observational conversation starters.
This is much easier than it might seem at first. The thing that can make it difficult is never practicing this skill ahead of time, then when you encounter a goddess, you’re a tongue-tied Neanderthal who can only grunt and nod. Contrary to popular belief, skills learned only under fire don’t come to us easily.
Why not practice starting observational conversations with anyone; male/female/preschooler/octogenarian? This way, by the time you run into a woman you’re dying to meet, your skills will be honed and you’ll be on your “A” game.
Remember, “practice makes perfect”.
Knowing how to approach women isn’t some trick of necromancy requiring that you go through certain sacred rituals to attain the favor of the gods. Like anything else at which you want to succeed, mastery can be gained only by constant practice.